Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and in spirit of the romantic day, we thought we’d write something for all the special couples out there….tips for moving in together! Yes, while this big move in your relationship can be extremely exciting, it can also be nerve wrecking. Here are some tips to help you ease into this new phase of your relationship.
Still have personal time
Chances are, before moving in with your partner, you had lots of “me time” whether living on your own, with roommates or in your family home. Now that you’re moving in with your romantic partner, you may feel that you need to be around each other a lot – especially in the beginning. However, this isn’t the case. You should still keep time in the day to do things you enjoy doing alone, like watching your favourite show, reading a book, taking a long bath, or having a nap, etc., You don’t have to spend every waking moment with your partner, and chances are, they have things they would like to do on their own too.
Still have your own space
Living with your partner means you’re pretty much sharing everything from the bathroom to the bedroom to the living room and kitchen. It’s important that amidst the co-living, you have some space carved out for you. You don’t need to have your very own room per say, but perhaps during downtime, you hang out more in the bedroom while your partner hangs out in the living room – for example. Or perhaps, when you have extra work to do, you take over the den. The point is, have a little space that is sorta just yours at certain points.
Figure out the finances beforehand
Don’t move in with your partner blindly. Figure out how rent will be paid, as well as other expenses such as heat, hydro, groceries and household supplies. While talking finances is no fun, having the conversation beforehand, can prevent you from experiencing some trouble later. Be sure to agree on a decision both people feel is fair so that there is no underlying resentment later.
Be open to redecorating
You’re very lucky if you and your partner have the same taste in furniture and decor. Chances are this is not the case and now that you’re sharing a space, you somehow have to agree on a certain style and furniture. The key is to compromise. For example, you want to keep your favourite retro lamp and your partner wants to keep the lumpy, extremely lived in couch. Choose your battles wisely! There are things both you and your partner will want to hang onto from your previous life, and it’s better to respect those choices. As for other items, go shopping together and pick out stuff you both like.
If you don’t have at least two full baths in your space, you need to really consider coming up with specific bathroom time for you and for your partner. The last thing you need is a fight over the shower or the counter space! Come up with a strategy so that you get your own time in the bathroom.
Go on dates
Just because you are living together and likely seeing each other everyday, does not mean the romance needs to end. You and your partner need to still go out and enjoy a nice dinner, a movie, the theatre, and more. Celebrate your love for each other. The icing on the cake is that you also get to live together!